‘Sorry I’ve been a bit quiet here. I’m re-launching my corporate speaking biz, which pays the bills for Hug Your Kids. Overhauling the website has been a real bear but it’s already so much better than it was when I left it last Fall. Peek (but don’t laugh, it’s not all done yet,) at http://www.WorkLifePriorities.com . It has its own FB page, so we can keep the Hugs work separate from the corporate work.
Monthly Archives: March 2010
When I drove past RENO HIGH SCHOOL this morning, my daughter pointed out that the RE were shiny. “That’s because kids are always stealing them, so the sign looks liked “NO HIGH SCHOOL.” What a hoot!
Since I’m a practical mom, I wondered why the school didn’t just put hinges on the back of the letters, so pranksters could lay them down, and the next day, the janitor could just set them up again, instead of having them stolen and then replaced.
This made me think about how flexiblity is also an important tool in our tool box as parents, as employees, and especially as working parents. Flexiblity about where and when the work gets done, but never about the heart and quality put into the work.
Hug your kids, even ridiculous ones that make the sign over their school read “No High School.”
Tonight was my son’s 13th birthday. We adopted him when he was 4 1/2 years old, so it’s not a day for me to take any credit.
While I was buying him his first cell phone for his gift, somehow I bought myself an iPhone too.
My first email on my new iPhone? Some wisdom from my sweet husband:
If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way.
If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.
So true! People ask me how to hug a loved one that’s far away, or a prickly teen, or someone who doesn’t like to be touched. They tell me they’ve just given up. Then I hear wonderful stories, about care packages sent, favorite sandwiches left in work trucks, and other examples of “hugs.” Find a way to hug the ones you love.
“The love in your heads and your hearts don’t really mean much.” People are shocked when I say this, but then they nod in agreement. It’s why hugs are so powerful – they are love put into action.
I went to my daughter’s school band concert last night in Reno, NV. The local 6th graders played along with the junior high kids and the senior high students. Wow! What was just as amazing was there wasn’t a spare square foot in the bleachers for all their moms and dads.
Showing up for band concerts is another way parents put their love into action. All those parents had dozens of tasks they could be doing, but instead they sat for 2 hours to hear their child blow, bang or strum for their 5 minutes of glory. Everyone left feeling loved. Yea band parents!
Singer Marie Osmond’s 18-year-old son, Michael Blosil, died by suicide last Friday, Feb. 26. We at the Hug Your Kids project extend our sympathies to the Osmond and Blosil families. What a loss – for his family, his friends, and the world in general.
BTW, saying “committed suicide” is not polite. We say “died by suicide” because the point is he’d dead, and can no longer love, laugh, or contribute. How he died is really beside the point. Not living = not living. Sure, she has 7 other children, but not one can be replaced by another. Every child is unique and irreplaceable.
The fact that Marie was a famous person from a famous family doesn’t make Michael’s death any more important – or any less. He was her son and she was his mother. That’s all that matters.
I heard professional speaker Dan Clark speak in Reno last week and while he made several great points, there was one that stayed with me, that my mind kept turning over and over like a shiny rock for the next several days. He said something like logic increases knowledge but emotion creates action. Action – the goal of every speaker.
I think it’s this emotional connection around the words “Hug Your Kids” that makes it so powerful. “Hug” is an action word. “Kids” has a very strong emotional kick, because even if you don’t have kids, you once were a kid. “Your” brings home the bacon, that is, it is the link between the action and the heart.
“Hug Your Kids” came from the billboards our family had put up for just one day in Houston on the 5 year anniversary of our son Mark’s death, in 2003. They said “HUG YOUR KIDS TODAY. WE WISH WE COULD. IN MEMORY OF MARK NICHOLS 1989 – 1998.” Powerful stuff.
The Hug Your Kids project has turned those 2 billboards for one day into a global, year-around movement – because it causes action. Hug your kids, spouse/ partner and loved ones, today!